One Minute Girlfriend
Description
An Ode to Emily
More Than Meets The Eyes
Should I Tell Her How I Feel?
The Play Date
Dogs, Cats, and the Art of Dating: Lessons from the Cab Ride
The Colorado Connection That Could Never Be
When Love Feels Like a DIY Project: The Fixer-Upper Dilemma
Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others
Should You Settle?
Is There Hope For The Gender Gap?
Cheating is a Cop Out
The Dance of Second Chances
Cupid and “timing” have conspired to make a mockery of my love life. This was not the first time these two have made trouble for me. In fact, it has happened so many times that I wonder if fate just likes toying with me.
I recently found out that she was leaving within a month for a job abroad. Long distance was one thing but international long distance was another, especially trying to create a relationship. When I looked at the odds and obstacles, it was much safer to keep silent and hold my feelings at bay. However, there was an incredible chemistry between us. From the first time we met, she brought out a side of me that only my closest friends have been privileged to see. This connection made connecting of our continents seem promising.
When I saw her next, my desire to live a life without regret released my restrained feelings. Words gushed out of my mouth, which left me naked with all of my intentions for her to see. She was shocked but happily surprised. Reality about our situation quickly weighted down my lofty dream. The only thing that steadied my nerves was the fact that her feelings for me mirrored mine. In her mind, she saw me as that person she would wonder about for the rest of her life. However, she didn’t realize that I was no longer going to settle for “what if”. It was too early for her to make a decision, so she went home to let everything sink in.
The following day, we met. A decision had not yet come to her. She felt pressured to give me an answer. I assured her that I only wanted to hear her decision when it came naturally, even it if meant waiting another day, week, or month. We parted early that day to let the dilemma marinate some more. Then, right before I went to bed, it dawned on me what I needed to do.
When we met the next day for coffee, I was nervous but determined to follow through on my new decision. So I told her that since I truly cared about her, the most loving thing I could do was to let her go. Her face expressed confusion. I explained that it was selfish of me to hold her back from being able to land with two feet firmly planted on her new home soil. It was not fair of me to hold her back from fully investing in her career just to entertain a fantasy of mine. As she listened, I could sense a conceded sigh of relief from her.
However, there was one request I had before I could completely let her go. I asked, “Will you be my girlfriend for one minute?” She stumbled back into her chair. When the shock settled, I extended my hand out and she took it. I looked deeply into her eyes. Time slowed down and every little second became a memory. As the second hand came full circle, I gave her fingers a final squeeze and let her go. I said my goodbye and walked away with a bittersweet grin, knowing that even though it was for only one minute, I had finally outwitted Cupid and “timing”.
More Than Meets The Eyes
Should I Tell Her How I Feel?
The Play Date
Dogs, Cats, and the Art of Dating: Lessons from the Cab Ride
The Colorado Connection That Could Never Be
When Love Feels Like a DIY Project: The Fixer-Upper Dilemma
Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others
Should You Settle?
Is There Hope For The Gender Gap?
Cheating is a Cop Out
The Dance of Second Chances
Cupid and “timing” have conspired to make a mockery of my love life. This was not the first time these two have made trouble for me. In fact, it has happened so many times that I wonder if fate just likes toying with me.
I recently found out that she was leaving within a month for a job abroad. Long distance was one thing but international long distance was another, especially trying to create a relationship. When I looked at the odds and obstacles, it was much safer to keep silent and hold my feelings at bay. However, there was an incredible chemistry between us. From the first time we met, she brought out a side of me that only my closest friends have been privileged to see. This connection made connecting of our continents seem promising.
When I saw her next, my desire to live a life without regret released my restrained feelings. Words gushed out of my mouth, which left me naked with all of my intentions for her to see. She was shocked but happily surprised. Reality about our situation quickly weighted down my lofty dream. The only thing that steadied my nerves was the fact that her feelings for me mirrored mine. In her mind, she saw me as that person she would wonder about for the rest of her life. However, she didn’t realize that I was no longer going to settle for “what if”. It was too early for her to make a decision, so she went home to let everything sink in.
The following day, we met. A decision had not yet come to her. She felt pressured to give me an answer. I assured her that I only wanted to hear her decision when it came naturally, even it if meant waiting another day, week, or month. We parted early that day to let the dilemma marinate some more. Then, right before I went to bed, it dawned on me what I needed to do.
When we met the next day for coffee, I was nervous but determined to follow through on my new decision. So I told her that since I truly cared about her, the most loving thing I could do was to let her go. Her face expressed confusion. I explained that it was selfish of me to hold her back from being able to land with two feet firmly planted on her new home soil. It was not fair of me to hold her back from fully investing in her career just to entertain a fantasy of mine. As she listened, I could sense a conceded sigh of relief from her.
However, there was one request I had before I could completely let her go. I asked, “Will you be my girlfriend for one minute?” She stumbled back into her chair. When the shock settled, I extended my hand out and she took it. I looked deeply into her eyes. Time slowed down and every little second became a memory. As the second hand came full circle, I gave her fingers a final squeeze and let her go. I said my goodbye and walked away with a bittersweet grin, knowing that even though it was for only one minute, I had finally outwitted Cupid and “timing”.
Début de l'événement
08.01.2022
Fin de l'événement
08.01.2022